Pillars of the Marriage

Qualities of great Marriages

• ·         Friendship- the couples who have strong friendship have staying power in that they not only each other but will like each. They enjoying spending quality time together and their respect one another.
• ·         Communication—many couples lack communication and it is the key to any successful marriage. Those who are able to open up to express their feeling in emotionally safe environment and they will be able to bury their frustrations which laws of coming out at some point.
• ·         Humor- most of the time if couples make each other laugh they will stand a good chance if the conflicts arise in their relationship. The couples who have the ability to cheers up a tense moment have the good advantage to lighten the mood quickly and possibly derail conflict.
• ·         Affection- the spouses who usually stays in physical contact thought out the day feel connected to each other. It will lead to sexual intimacy but an easy way to say “I love you” is connection without words. Some families are so chaotic between jobs, children and life that these brief shows of affection can be grounding when everything is swirling around you.
• ·         Chore sharing-The couples who share up the households or parenting responsibilities are likely to hold resentments about what they perceive as unfair. Both couples participation contributes to the marriage.
• ·         Reliability-It is human to feel good when those we care and love follow through behaviorally we know they will support will be there.
• ·         Mutual and separate friends- the couples who socialize with others partners and maintain separate friendships have great chances in regards to honoring themselves as individual within the marriage.it will lead to self-satisfaction which will translate to relationship satisfaction.
• ·         No “Horsemen of the Apocalypse “The four horsemen are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. It is likely that couples who practice higher level of horsemen in their relationship will likely to divorce.
• ·         Relationship vision- couples who created a vision for themselves they know where they are going as they planned together. They get joy out of reaching for their goals as a team and less likely to be derailed by surprise down the line.