Have fun together-Marriage

Qualities of great marriages:

 

Marriage is created by two people involved and is defined as such by what works for each them together. I encourage you to sit down with your spouse and talk about your ideas of what makes a great marriage and make it for yourself.

1.       Friendship

Spouse who has strong friendship having staying in power not only loves each other -but like each other. They enjoy spending time together and respect each other.

2.       Humor

Couples who can, make each laugh have the ability to lengthen the mood quickly when the conflicts do rise. They are able to use funny nicknames can be an indicator of great fondness for one another.

3.       Communication

Those who are openly express their feelings in an emotionally safe environment. Avoid the they deal of the situation                                                                           

4.       chore sharing

Parenting responsibility in a way that is mutually agreed upon is less likely to hold resentment about what is perceive as unfair. Each partner participates and contributes to the marriage in this way.

5.       Sexual intimacy

Couples who have their sexual needs met or at least negotiated a reasonable compromise. There is no “right” or” wrong” here, but if one person is feeling their needs aren’t being met it is important to talk about it.

6.       Affection

Spouse who stays in physical contact in some way throughout the day feel connected to each other, even if it’s a simple stroke of their hair, kiss on the check or playful tap on the rear. These moments don’t necessarily lead to sexual intimacy but it easy to say “I love you and we’re connected “without the words. Some households are so chaotic between jobs, kids and life that these brief shows of affection can be grounding everything else is swirling around you.

7.       No “horse of the apocalypse”

This term is used to predict divorce with incredible accuracy. He mentions his “four horsemen of the apocalypse “are contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling. Couples who demonstrate a high level of the “the horsemen “in their relationship are more likely to divorce

8.       Mutual and separate friends

Partners who socialize with other couples and also maintain separates friendships have greater balance in regards to honoring themselves as individuals within the marriage. This will leads to more self-satisfaction and translates to relationship satisfaction.

9.       Reliability

If couples do what they say and say what they do, they create an atmosphere of conducive in knowing their words mean something to the other, in return increases emotional safety in the marriage.

10.   Relationship vision

Couples who have created a relationship vision for themselves know where they’re going as the planned it together. They get joy out of reaching for their goals as a team and are less likely to be derailed by surprise down the line. They have short and long terms goals of their marriage and family.