Anger is not a destination

Anger is normal emotions worth a wide range of intensity from mild irritation and frustrations. It is a reaction to understand threat to ourselves, our loved ones, our property, our self-image or some part of our identity. It is regarded as a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong. Anger is also related to one’s psycholosociological interpretation of having been threatened and is often indicates when one’s basic boundaries are violated. People have learned tendency to react to through retaliation anger and it may be utilized to set boundaries or escape from dangerous situations.

What makes people angry?

• ·         Sexual frustration;
• ·         Rudeness;
• ·         Tiredness;
• ·         Hunger;
• ·         Pain;
• ·         Grief, losing a loved;
• ·         Humiliation;
• ·         Embarrassment;
• ·         Financial;
• ·         Sloppy service.

Symptoms of anger

• ·         Using dramatic words;
• ·         Shouting, screaming;
• ·         Threatening;
• ·         Bombarding someone with hostile questions.

Types of anger

• ·         Chronic anger-people are constantly angry and have defensive approach to the world.
• ·         Explosives or Volatile anger-people explode or express their anger in violent ways.
• ·         Avoidance anger-people are afraid to express any form of anger, to keep their anger and resentment bottled up.
• ·         Passive aggressive anger-people have different ways to display their anger in various ways such as avoidance, arriving late or ignoring and may experience a sense of revenge.

3 components of anger

• ·         The cognitive experience of anger- how we perceive and think what is making us angry e.g. we might think that something that happened to us is wrong, unfair and undeserved.
• ·         Behavior or the we express our anger-we may sound angry, turned red, raise our voices, clam up. Slam doors. Storm away and signal to others that we are angry.
• ·         Physical reactions- It starts with a responses and adrenaline such as heart rate increased, tightening, blood pressure.

Techniques to control your anger

• ·         Time out-before you react take a moment to breathe deeply and count to 10.
• ·         Get some exercise-take a brisk walk, a healthy run, or engage in some other favorite’s physical activity.
• ·         Think before you speak-collect your thoughts and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
• ·         Identify possible solutions-assess the situation and remind yourself that anger isn’t the answer and won’t lead to a solution.
• ·         Don’t hold a grudges-avoid being swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.
• ·         Use humor to release tension-tension can be diffuse by lightening the situation.
• ·         Know when to seek help-consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger is out of control cause you might hurts those around you.
• ·         Stick with ‘I’ statements-use I statements to explain the problem in a respectful way. Like “I’m upset that you didn’t take out the garbage this morning.