What is home sickness?

Homesickness can be defined as distress and functional impairment caused by an actual or anticipated separation from home and people and things you’re familiar. Its cognitive hallmark is preoccupying thoughts of home and attachment objects. It suffers a typically report a combination of depressive and anxious symptoms, withdrawn behavior and difficulty focusing on topics unrelated to home. All people missing something about home when they are away, making homesickness a universal experience. 

Some surrounding, people and routines provide sense of security and comfort. The new place you may find yourself missing the comforts of home and loved ones. The homesick feelings are normal and some people find little loneliness, sadness or anxiety. Others may have physical symptoms such as, stomach or headache, or becomes depressed. Once the new surrounding and people become more familiar, feelings of homesickness go away.

Again if you feel overwhelmed, it is a good idea to seek help from the school. Or campus counselor and an additional stress in life such as divorce or death in the family, homesickness can become intense. It can happen when you cope with other loss or change, you’ll feel attached to things that brings you comfort and miss them more.

Signs and symptoms

• ·         Nostalgia
• ·         Depression
• ·         Withdrawal
• ·         Sadness
• ·         Agoraphobia
• ·         Grief
• ·         Claustrophobia

Common effects

• ·         Behavior problems

• ·         Feelings of haplessness
• ·         Coping deficits
• ·         Low self esteem
• ·         Social problems
• ·         Academic difficulty

Coping with homesickness

• ·         Find new ways –try new ways to meet and connect with people in places like clubs, sport steams, college activities and study groups.
• ·         Talk to someone- consult you trusted friend such as family members, team mate, close friend about you’re feeling.
• ·         Patient- you must be used to new environment and develop friend’s ships thought it takes time.
• ·         Take care of yourself- practice healthy lifestyles in other areas of your life to ensure that other things of your well-being are healthy and have enough sleep.

The importance of patience in relationship

The meaning of patience in Greek (Macrothmea) is suffering or slow to anger and love suffers because it is the nature of love to suffer. Lewis further defines loves as anything and your heart will certainly be wrong and possibly broken and we are called to love but we are commanded to love. It means loving when the person you are trying to love continue hurting you afresh, long suffering means that love suffers well. It takes a radical act of God in our lives to so change our hearts that we are willing to embrace pain and eschew pleasure.

We live in the instant generation where everything is instant coffee, instant messaging, instant porridge and computers need more memory and technology is fast and no patience at all from the people nowadays. So we now expect relationships to work the same way but it is not possible relationships they patience and is up to us to willingly to put things on the table. We must be prepared to invest time and effort in working them out.

Since the grass is always greener on the other side most single people wanted to be in the relationship that offers them companionship, emotional and physical connection and sometimes by looking too hard in life you will miss out in in trying to find the partner. It is not necessary to search for partners in the bars and clubs, but go out and have fun without any intention of meeting the love of your life. Things all ways turn out least unexpected and there’s nothing like pleasant surprise meeting someone out of the blue.

Evert relationship has its own problems but what makes it perfect is your when you still want to be there when thing are difficult and rosy. If you encounter problems bring them out and be open about them so that you will deal with them. People must not mistake silence with patience that can be the easy trap.

It means we must be patient with long suffering with an insufferable situation or person even if you are hurting yourself badly, because it is the will of God. It hurts terribly to love at times like that but that is what love does.

How to mentor a leader

According mentoring growing leaders required short period of time within the organization is a challenge. This project speed of the need for innovations has increased and people are being shoved into positions of management and leadership in an ever increasing pace. But in past individual would learn skills and knowledge through training, education and experience and the organization could afford wait around for him/her to come to speed. Mentoring is the individual experience, knowledge, and or skills of a specific content area that is able, willing and available to share this with the individual.

There is no description how the mentor should have to be qualified, older, have qualification, grade level, or have been in the organization for a long period of time. The most important thing the mentor must have is experience, knowledge and skills that she/he wants to share with someone who needs them. The application of that knowledge is very much important.

Under the tutelage of the mentor the learner is given immediate access to valuable insights and past experiences. The individual learns by doing and able to practice what they are learning. Many organizations are struggling most of the training and developments budgets were cut and therefore trying to provide the necessary learning and development for managers and leaders was not only difficulty but sometimes impossible.

Mentoring relationships allows individual to learn while they doing in workplace or wherever they are. Mentoring is one of the most cost effective and efficient tools as an organization has for the development of its employee.

• ·         Individual attention from someone who has great deal of knowledge and experience and degree of success and respect within the organization.
• ·         Direct information and experiences from mentor which build a degree of confidence through guidance, assistance and support.
• ·         The ability to practice obtained learning in his/her own job position as a mentor can illustrate specific learning transfer to real life experiences on the job.
• ·         Champion that many times can provide clear direction to positions in the organization that interest and skills of the mentee.
• The mentor only job is to help your mentee to gain experiences and knowledge and mentorship  brings best out of the people, how to recover from their mistakes and handles discipline.

How to become a great father

In order to understand your father better understand yourself you must update your view will help you change your viewed of yourself and to reduce your fear of making his mistakes. The son must always rely or ask the father if he wanted to know many things including his past experiences, struggles, present fear and his long passion and what makes him a person. If the father is dead the child can spend some time reflecting and healing and recovering by writing him a letter to tell him what you wished for and tell him what you wish he would have said.

Tell your son that there are vast experiences between son and daughter they would solve problems differently women process the problem and make a sense of emotions and talk through. While man work out the problem in their mind and come out with an issue the good example is “I want to do this, we need to do this. Be mindful of what you do and you son might not understand what you do.

The father nurture his son and hugging, and kissing our boys and tell them eve very day you love him and talk care of their own development,Nurturing is primarily, you must protected always tell your children how he is living his life, help him/ her make correction. The good dad will guide his son in a good way.

We need to give our son control and give money can always be lost and father not relies on money to keep children happy, because time can be recalled like money because you can claim money. Dedicate certain time either video games, read a book, watch TV. And giver your children undivided attention and get him to be in charge. Do this this boost his self-confidence. You must apologize if you make a mistake don’t be arrogant, blame other for their problems and emotions.

You must love you partner strong relationship will provide strong foundations for your son development and you should see how you get there and keep it up. The father is the mode l to his son and show her how intimate relationship work. Fathers don’t need to be perspective but proactive and you don’t need to be calm but to be clear and sensitive.

How to spice up your marriage

There is a myth saying you are neglecting your kids if you put your marriage first and the more we given them attentive on the more they would be better. David says “we seem to be marrying our kids instead of our spouses because we find easier than our partners “Code agree with David by saying putting your spouse first will create a trio of positive outcomes, your marriage will improve , your children won’t suffer from over parenting  and your kids will learn positive relationship skills.

The power of romance in relationship-the simple romantic gesture will do for couples by putting back the spark in daily life. The partners have to create the foundation of trust, comfort and play. You can do this by having regular sex no matter the conditions. You can talk about sex and hear what things make her uncomfortable which is not part of your marriage.

You must take care of the items on their to do list while having breakfast in bed. You can help your partner by doing house chores so that you allow her a break. It will be nice if she is ready for it and in better moods for your needs. You must give him /her full body massage after you have put the kids in beds. The partner must wear something sexy and couples must surprise each other after a long time.

The couples must do foreplay for an about hour to two to play and you must do quickies as well to vary the spices and luxuriating in each other for urgency passionate. Have oral sex and it must not be a big deal you can just tease and warm each other by putting pillow underneath so that he can be more comfortable pleasures you.

You can masturbate in front of each other by showing each other how you will be liked to be touched ,be watched. When he/she is masturbating you can whisper and moan a sexy story in his ear and often men love visual stimulation that is why the love porn pictures or videos. You can go to hotel to get better trusted sitter and take full night of passion, it will help your to spark your sex life.Don't forget to change sex positions and be realistic and in different locations it will work well for both partners and go wild.